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Welcome Soila to Albert Square Mediation

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2017-11-17 | By Soila Sindiyo, ASM's new team member who is a renowned parenting expert – ASM is delighted to welcome Soila and looks forward to publishing many more of her very astute and illuminating blogs and promoting her parenting classes.

Conflict is a normal part of family life. What matters is how parents handle it and deal with it.
If your children are witnessing and living with continuous parental conflict, then there is a pretty good chance that this situation might be affecting them in various ways. This applies both to children whose parents are divorced but still engaged in conflict as well as cohabiting parents.

You are your child’s expert so you will know best if he/she is experiencing any of the following, at what intensity and how frequently. If it has been going on for more than a few weeks then you might need to seek some support in dealing with the situation. The sooner the better.

• Behavioural problems: perhaps the most common, most noticeable change and can include but not limited to aggression and disruptive behaviour. Children will often express stress and the lack of adequate support through behaviour as opposed to words.
• Sleep disturbances. Your child is finding it difficult to fall sleep or remain asleep through the night whereas this was not the case before.
• Psychosomatic symptoms. Your child maybe suffering from physical pain which has no apparent medical basis. The pain is very real to him/her. This could be caused by the stressful situation in which they live.
• Underachievement at school
• Low self-esteem and/or is exceedingly self-critical.
• Regression. Your child may be showing behaviour more consistent with his/her younger self; behaviours that they had outgrown but have now reverted back to – may include bed wetting for instance.
• Where your child is no longer interested in things that she/he used to enjoy doing or participating in.
• Your child has increased fears such as fear of the dark or might become very clingy towards one parent for fear of losing him or her too (in the case of divorce).
• Developing feeding problems

We, as adults and as parents, can and do underestimate children’s capacity to understand feelings and relationships. Speaking with them and answering their questions as much as possible can go a long way in helping them deal with the situation.

Also, and this may sound odd, giving them permission to speak with you or someone they trust can also open doors for communication to happen spontaneously hence avoiding a whole lot of problems down the line. Just letting them know it’s ok and letting them see that you, as the parent, can handle and contain their fears, worries and anxieties allows them to come to you.

5 Ways Video Can Reduce Hostile Work Environments

In light of tweets and technology and world leaders attending our upcoming Vietnam conference November 11-13th…

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5 Ways Video Can Reduce Hostile Work Environments

By Top Notch Cinema 

Video has completely revolutionized and created an impressionable imprint on the corporate world. From using video content to enhance sales to establishing effective internal communication, video continues to change the landscape of the workplace. Top Notch Cinema (http://topnotchcinema.com/) discusses five ways video can improve the workplace environment and create harmonious, productive surroundings.

IMG_11171) Videos have proven to be an essential tool in lead generation, brand development and awareness and sales. In using this as a promotional and sales tool, not only do conversion rates increase leading to more sales, it also creates consistency and clarity in the company’s brand.
2) Video content not only improves the external output, but can seamlessly manage internal procedures with consistency. Training videos are a perfect example of this; without them, staff can deviate from expectations, goals and responsibilities. Training videos are an effectively clear point of reference, boosting effectualness and productivity in a cost-effective manner.
3) Every employee wants to feel informed and connected to their place of employment; personalized communication via video can bridge the gap between executives and employees, developing an environment of connectivity and open communication. Instead of sending out an impersonal email, highlight and feature important company news in visual content format that informs, motivates and inspires!
4) The safety and comfort of every employee should be primary concern in every corporate setting. Communicating expectations of every workplace member in regards to their role in creating a safe work environment can be distinctly portrayed in a quality video. Clear depictions of appropriate and inappropriate behavior eliminates any confusion, minimizes hostile workplaces and serves as an excellent point of reference, if needed.
5) Overall, internal video content not only boosts external results of any business; it stimulates a constructive framework for each and every employee. By setting expectations, maintaining consistent, cohesive communications and eliminating unsafe practices, video content fosters a positive, productive and profitable environment.

 

 

Introducing Brāv Lions & Brāv Ambassadors

Brav-LogoBrāv Ambassadors are those trained the Brāv way who may or may not travel to manage the conflicts of others. They also can provide information, feedback and stars to those companies, countries, regions, towns, etc that are in compliance with Brāv standards. Any thoughts on either and tying it in to any divisions and/ or campaigns? Somewhat inspired by the Michelin guide: History: In 1926, the Michelin guide began to award stars for fine dining establishments. Initially, there was only a single star awarded. Then, in 1931, the hierarchy of zero, one, two, and three stars was introduced. Finally, in 1936, the criteria for the starred rankings were published:[3] 1 Michelin star: “A very good restaurant in its category” (Une très bonne table dans sa catégorie) 2 Michelin stars: “Excellent cooking, worth a detour” (Table excellente, mérite un détour) 3 Michelin stars: “Exceptional cuisine, worth a special journey” (Une des meilleures tables, vaut le voyage).[6]

Mediation…in space? #ASM in Space

IMG_1100By Dr. Athar Yawar

The year is 2100. Years of corporate dominance have led to the world having a single economy: hence, it made no sense to have more than one government. Plato argued that democracy would lead to populism and eventually to tyranny. What he did not foresee, perhaps, is that tyranny, to survive, often depends on buffoonery. The tyrant cannot fail gracefully, or even ironically, and escalating terror is not always possible. Hence, the tyrant must present a facade of compelling, menacing illogic.

Brav-LogoElections for world president, such as they were, therefore became a contest between embodiments of staggering idiocy. Knowing that they were being ruled by fools made people feel curiously comforted. No matter how miserable their lives, the madness of the ruler gave light relief.

And, by and large, their lives were really miserable. By 2050, most skilled jobs had been outsourced to robots. In a wildly unequal society, many people found employment only as entertainment or as exceptionally cheap labour. The exceptions were people outstandingly good at interpersonal skills, who provided a warmth or insight that no algorithm could quite match. Among these were the professionals at Associated Serfs’ Mediation, known as Albert Square Mediation before Albert Square was replaced by a slave market with heliport. The board of Albert Square Mediation had kept the same initials; the firm’s post-2080 title reflected the company’s social conscience. They were happy to mediate between serfs and masters, formerly known as employers, and to do so with a degree of honesty and transparency that occasionally created a frisson of risk.

2080 had certainly been an eventful year. More than 100 years after the Voyager spacecraft had been launched, alien life had made deliberate contact with the Planet Earth—or Banana, as it was then known, since its name changed yearly according to corporate sponsorship. The aliens had been attracted by radio signals—not from astronomers, but from misaligned satellites beaming Laurel and Hardy films and I Love Lucy. The aliens had been reassured, by what they had seen, that they confronted a great civilisation. After 3 months of discussions with the leaders of Planet Earth—sorry, Banana—the aliens felt sufficiently disabused, and disappeared, never to be seen again, muttering polite nothings about the standards of our snooker players.

2100 brought a different challenge. These aliens did not come for cultural exchange, or for trade as it was conventionally understood. They made it very clear, through a series of silent movies, that they wished to eat the inhabitants of Planet Shell (formerly known as Earth).

“But suppose we’re poisonous?” asked the world’s leading biologist.

“That’s just a risk we’ll have to take,” communicated the aliens via a mime suspiciously resembling a Noh drama.

The people of Planet Shell quickly realised they had three different problems:

Aliens wanted to eat them;
They didn’t know what else would satisfy the aliens;
They weren’t quite sure what the aliens would like as a starter.

The aliens demanded, via a series of bleeps and a deafening gong, to be taken to the planet’s leader.

The people of Planet Shell took one look at their leader and invited him to enter a very dark cupboard, smeared with mustard.

“What we need,” said a civil servant clutching a dictionary and a witchdoctor, “is a mediator.”

“Gas or electric?” asked the high priest of all voodoo slaves (Surbiton branch).

“Not a radiator, a mediator,” came the reply, as the witchdoctor silently conjugated Greek verbs. “Someone to help us negotiate with these carnivorous aliens. Someone to help both parties to go away happy, Or at least satisfied. And I don’t mean in a culinary sense.”

The world’s civil servants scoured the internet (so much easier, if less reliable, since everybody had had chips implanted in the prefrontal cortex) for a suitable mediation firm. There was one key problem. Most mediation firms were nothing but a safety valve: a way for masters to continue to oppress serfs, while observing human-rights law. Very few firms openly and conscientiously sought to elicit and respect the views of both parties.

In the ruins of what had been a Victorian house, on the edge of a heliport, the head of ASM blinked as he was summoned into space.

“Me?” he said. “I last had a paying customer in 2097. The serfs just pay in kind. Weirdly, it’s usually cabbage, Still, good for the eyes, I always say…”

He was invited to stop speculating about his eyes and start speculating on how to save mankind.

“Well, it’s very simple you see.”

“Go on,” said the civil servant, toying with putting the gun down.

“These aliens want to eat us all. But that isn’t necessarily what they actually want.”

“On the contrary,” said the civil servant, “they’ve made that abundantly clear. They keep sending us ultimatums laced with ketchup.”

“Yes, but what people actually want isn’t always the same as what they say they want,” averred the mediator.

The civil servant insouciantly waggled the gun. “Go on.”

“People want things for a reason. Maybe the aliens are hungry. Or frightened. I would be—in fact,” he said, glancing at the gun, “I am. Or maybe they’re angry about something. At any rate, it can’t hurt to ask them why they’re so keen on eating us. Then maybe we can present an alternative.”

Reasoning that, on the planet formerly known as Earth, the dominant life form was the common cold virus, the aliens had spent years learning how to sneeze sociably, but had not mastered the art of speech. It did not help that they had no larynxes, and could only communicate by expelling air rapidly from their breathing apparatus. Long conversations, on their planet, meant certain death.

Fortunately, the mediator had vast experience of interpretation.

“If you’re short of air,” he said, “just use body language. Raise one tentacle for yes. Two tentacles for no. Three tentacles means you’re happy. Four tentacles mean you accept Berkeley’s conclusions on the nature of existence. Five tentacles mean you’ve rejected Berkeley in favour of a shallowly Marxian materialism. Six tentacles means you’re hungry. Seven tentacles means you’d like a cup of tea.”

The head alien goggled and scooted backwards.

“It seems a little wary of your tea,” remarked the civil servant.

“Tea is nothing to be frightened of,” said the mediator. “It is the cure to all human ills. Except perhaps being eaten. At least if you’re a biscuit.”

The civil servant glared balefully. “Perhaps,” he said in a voice that could have chilled a thousand suns, “it would be best not to liken ourselves too blatantly to widely accepted snacks.”

The mediator, unusually for those days, used a pen and paper. It was partly his way of respecting confidentiality. He had also found that using a pen encouraged creative thinking, often needed to overcome stalemates and address profound grief. He made brief, cryptic notes, just to get his mind going.

The alien stared at him with all 13 of its eyes, before grabbing the pen with two tentacles and manipulating the pad with another five.

“We are not hungry,” it wrote. “We have learned how to photosynthesise from your Banana bacteria.” (“It’s called Shell now”, the mediator whispered.) “Who, incidentally, are very impolite.

“But we are concerned. We have seen you on Banana kill and enslave each other. And it gives us an overwhelming sense of sin.

“We have read your Graham Greene novels and we understand sin. We are frightened of it. We cannot bear it. We cannot bear to witness your sin.

“We have read your holy books backwards…”—the civil servant arched an eyebrow—“…and forwards. We do not understand your sin. To sin is illogical.

“To be illogical is to be non-mathematical. To go against mathematics is to go against the universe. Every sin destroys the universe. We must destroy you before you destroy the universe.”

“I think I understand your reasoning now,” said the mediator. “But why eat us?”

“Waste not want not,” replied the alien.

“So what you need,” said the mediator, “Is to be less concerned about our sinning. Either because we stop sinning…”

“That would be best,” said the alien, in a way that would have been heartfelt, had it had a heart.

“Or you see it as harmless or even providential.”

“IMPOSSIBLE” wrote the alien in large black letters.

“Implausible,” said the mediator, “but perhaps not impossible. In a universe of infinite possibility anything is possible.”

“You are mathematical,” sighed the alien.

At this point, the president of the world, by repeatedly headbutting the inside of the cupboard, activated his communication chip—which, naturally, beamed to the space station, since this was the centre of earthly—Bananaly—Shelley—power.

“Tentacled sucker…” he began.

“Our tentacles have no suckers,” thought the alien.

“…on this planet, we kill all terrorists. And anyone who wants to eat my mother is a terrorist.”

“It is not personal,” wrote the alien. At this point, the mediator turned off the screen.

“You see what we’re up against,” he said to the aiien. “A man born to sin.”

“Born to sin?!” gasped the alien. It paused to recharge its breathing apparatus.

“I — do — not — know,” it said, “if you are demon or interesting theologian. But we must talk.”

Over the next few months, the aliens had animated discussions with a series of mystics about Original Sin, Inevitable Sin, Forgivable Sin and even Providential Sin. They learnt that pride was the root of all sin, and that, paradoxically, condemning another for his sin might be a greater sin than the sin itself.

“We are sorry,” said the head alien. “Perhaps we should eat ourselves.”

“That won’t be necessary,” said the mediator. “Biscuit?”

Learn more about our new partners…

IMG_1097Prerna Foundation is a socio – legal initiative by Adv. Jharna Jagtiani. One of our mission is to ease the access to justice for people at large. Our aim is to increase awareness about “Mediation” as primary mode of resolving any dispute.
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We intend to educate and help people understand mediation and other legal aspects through internet and other online tools. Our online legal awareness initiative “Lawful Talks” – www.lawfultalks.com – is a platform that welcomes, encourages and more importantly talks to its viewers and everyone interested in the legal community.IMG_1098 In a broader sense, it will be covering and simplifying many aspects of law and dispute resolution mechanism.

“I truly believe that mediation is a party – centric and structured negotiation process where a neutral third party assists the parties in amicably resolving their dispute by using specialized communication and negotiation techniques. Keeping in mind the backlog of cases in Indian Courts, mediation should be the primary option of dispute resolution, and if it fails then only litigation should be looked at.” – Adv. Jharna Jagtiani, Mediator & Dispute Resolution Consultant.

www.prernafoundation.org

In Fact Any #Mediation – What Have the Lawyers Got to Lose?

Paul Sandford of Albert Square Mediation

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Every so often I meet a lawyer for coffee and discuss with him or her the virtues of mediation. I emphasise the timeliness and cost effectiveness and explain that invariably, mediation will be in the best interests of the client. In many instances I receive very favourable responses. Many of the lawyers I encounter are honourable, sensible, down to earth people and I can think of many instances where they tell me that despite having been strongly advised to consider it, their clients firmly say no.

This scenario is not altogether uncommon but there have been some less positive solicitorial discussions.
Some lawyers will refuse to entertain even the mention of mediation. Others who may be a little more candid have been known to tell me in confidence that they see mediation as a threat to their livelihoods.

Some, who are even more cynical, see mediation as an opportunity to make more money and seemingly use the process as some sort of dry run for the inevitable day or two or possibly month or two that will be spent in the courtroom. Such lawyers go about their business safe in the knowledge that although the higher courts issue dire warnings about disproportionate costs from time to time, these are not enshrined in the formal court rules and that unfortunately they can safely be honoured in the breach. Will lawyers lose their livelihoods if Mediation is allowed to hold sway?

The short and emphatic answer is “no”. Every so often, there will be media speculation about the demise of the legal profession because of one issue or another. However, although the legal profession may not always emerge unscathed from the various crises that beset it, nonetheless it survives and in reality, erudite and intelligent practitioners go on from strength to strength.

Mediation is not a substitute for the legal process. If a road traffic accident case involving personal injury goes to mediation, the mediator will endeavour to facilitate a resolution and clearly will not “advise” on such issues as quantum of damages. A mediator is not a substitute judge and at all junctures of the process, parties to a mediation will be reminded of this and advised to seek advice. In some instances it will be perfectly legitimate for lawyers to attend mediations and particularly where there are complex issues to be considered, their input may be warmly welcomed. Mediators do not prepare cases in the sense of obtaining experts’ reports, collating evidence and giving legal advice. Increased use of mediation would not diminish such functions and lawyers would still expect to receive substantial fees for undertaking them.

Consider cases where the lawyers very properly advise their clients that settlement is appropriate and that the outcome of a day in court cannot be accurately forecast. In such instances, not only can a mediation help the parties to concentrate and focus on what is important but if the process is successful (and around 90% all civil mediations are) then the lawyers can quite legitimately take the credit for some good, possibly even inspired advice.

Early stage mediation in particular can result in cases being dealt with more quickly with faster turnover and therefore increased billing rates. Lawyers who advise mediation can quite legitimately state that they “get results”. Even the most vexatious of clients usually wants a timely outcome and in many instances they will see the lawyers who advise mediation as “successful dealmakers”. Legal reputations will be enhanced and is entirely conceivable that satisfied clients will return and may instruct the same lawyers or their colleagues or associates to undertake often costly and contentious work such as conveyancing which of course, has nothing to do with mediators.

A cynical observer might note that difficult or awkward cases that are taking a disproportionate amount of lawyer time or are not economically viable could quite justifiably and fairly be addressed through mediation. On line mediators are able to deal with modest value disputes that most lawyers will not even be prepared to contemplate although a lawyer to mediator referral in such an instance will constitute good service for which the former can take the credit.

It is my firmly held view that there are many people who are disinclined to pursue what in many instances may be perfectly legitimate claims because of the time, trouble, bureaucracy, stress and expense that going to law so often entails. Lawyers should consistently and meaningfully refer to mediation. In so doing they would amply demonstrate to clients that there was a realistic prospect of their cases being resolved in a reasonable period of time at a fraction of the cost of full-blown court proceedings. This would undoubtedly encourage people to see progress and the chances are that lawyers would attract more clients.

Sooner or later, mediation and other forms of alternative dispute resolution will become commonplace and whether they like it or not, lawyers in England and Wales and innumerable other jurisdictions will have to take it much more seriously.

The Brazilian State of Mato Grosso has embraced mediation. I understand that Portugal is about to embrace it. In the US State of Texas, which I understand to be a very sophisticated jurisdiction, mediation is very much the norm.
There is no suggestion in any of these jurisdictions that lawyers have suffered because of mediation or that they will suffer.

With a nod to a well-worn phrase which was used in the spoof film about a US criminal courtroom, “My Cousin Vinnie”, – “the case rests”.

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