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Brāv 2015 & Beyond

Dear Brāv Fans,


We wish you the best this 2015! Thanks for making our campaign a success; Brāv made over $1500 from our donors for our Global Giving campaign.  We thank you for believing in us.


Upcoming events:

  • We are continuing to work on exciting training for the upcoming summer. Stay tuned!


  • We are excited about spreading our platform into new organizations and industries and plan exponential growth for the coming year. Brāv will be featured in an April talent competition! While dates are getting finalized, be on the lookout for information on an upcoming pageant where contestants will get certified as Brāv Crowns and help spread Brāv’s message.



  • And…Tell everyone how Brāv ( trains anyone in conflict resolution and management. In turn, these trained Brāv Ones aid in the conflicts of others on the site’s face-to-face platforms.


Your continued support in our Challenge is crucial – we still have a chance to earn a permanent spot on the Global Giving site to complete the online program when we receive 40 unique donations totaling $5000.00! Here is the site:

Thanks from

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What Can We Learn from Afroman?

Afroman, well known for his 2001 hit, succeeded in his mission to make a comeback…but not necessarily for his music as he had hoped. If you haven’t seen the .30 second video of Afroman slapping a fan (but nonetheless stage trespasser), watch it now. The most disturbing aspect of the Afroman incident was arguably not the blow to the concert goer’s face, but rather the musician’s seeming lack of concern right after, immediately returning back to playing his guitar, not missing a beat.Brav-Logo

Some believe this cavalier attitude (only reinforced by his tweet later on that states, “it is what it is”) could suggest that he’s reacted similarly before.

But what causes this acting out? There are many reasons that this might occur:

  1. Learning that violent coping skills are acceptable from a trusted individual, such as an abusive parent or close friend, and therefore not learning more effective ways to handle pent up emotion or not learning the value of self control.
  2. An attitude that their target is out to get them/ inferior to them/a nuisance, and the most immediate way to deal with them is through intimidation and violence. (He failed to react the same way when the male concert goer walked on stage too, but that may also be due to remaining in shock from the first trespasser.)
  3. A loss of control. For example, in his apology, Afroman cites his quest to make a career comeback. Thus, despite not receiving consent, the target walks on and dances on stage and attempts to dance on him, may have sent him into a rage because it took the focus off his talent and disrupted his focus.
  4. Not having an outlet for his emotions, and learning that anything short of aggression is weakness – particularly because it works. Many support the idea that Afroman was sexually assaulted on stage and some say that warrants self-defense. It is important to note that self-defense requires necessary and proportionate force to that of the initial aggressor.
  5. The anger may not even have anything to do with the concertgoer.  Perhaps Afroman keeps anger inside, which manifests at arbitrary triggers.

What do you think?


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What’s the Difference between being Assertive & Aggressive?

Reducing and dealing with conflict requires skill and confidence. In daily life, you encounter issues all of the time. From childhood to adulthood, the challenges arrive, and you need the tools to appropriately deal with these conflicts and move on with a healthy and happy life.

Whether you are dealing with bullies at school, or other conflicts, there is a crucial need to understand the difference between assertive and aggressive behavior.Brav-Logo

Merriam-Webster defines assertive as: disposed to, or characterized by bold or confident statements and behavior.  Aggressive is defined as:  tending toward or exhibiting aggression, marked by combative readiness.

The nonviolent resolution of conflict is centered upon the quality of assertiveness. Here at Brāv, our platform focuses on the importance of using assertion rather than aggression to solve interpersonal issues on a daily basis.

Our Brāv Ones can help guide you through this concept, and help stop the vicious cycle of violence.  If you are having difficulty at school, at your work, or at home, we are here to help.

The concept is seemingly simple, but it is in the application of these qualities in situations of conflict that is the hard part. That is where Brāv comes in. Let us help you today.

Contact us at for more information. If you would like to be part of our team of Brāv Ones that help others, we would love to hear from you too!

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Brāv and the Global Giving Community

Our latest fundraiser is in full swing! We are very excited and thankful to have this opportunity to help propel Brāv’s mission to its ultimate potential.Brav-Logo

Global Giving is a charity fundraising web site that gives social entrepreneurs and non-profits from anywhere in the world a chance to raise the money that they need to improve their communities.

If we reach our goal of $5,000 from forty unique donors by December 31, 2014, we will earn a permanent place on the web site. This would be monumental in helping us to achieve our goal of being the go-to global site for nonviolent conflict resolution services.

Please consider us for your year-end donations. With your generosity, you will become a member of the global Brāv community; have ‘first-to-know’ news of our activities, discounts on the latest Brāv merchandise, and access to unique toolkits and programs available to our growing world family.

Thank you for believing in us. Together, we can make the world a better, more peaceful place.

You can help us here:    Global Giving

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What Ferguson has to do with Brāv

The majority of intelligent people realize that no one is born angry. Yet with regular rage from frustrations, anything can be used to offset this anger. Instead of emotions acting as the be all end all, talk therapy can help.

A new study came out yesterday that discussed talk therapy as a conflict resolution alternative to traumatic situations. At Brāv, we have spent a lot of time researching on alternative dispute resolution and seek to cultivate the largest online network, training ordinary people in conflict management who in turn resolve the conflicts of others on our website’s face to face platform.Brav-Logo

Coming together with neighborhoods, schools, workplaces, places of worships and all other organizations to provide an alternative for those who seek to have a conflict managed is key. These groups help to provide accountability by ensuring that all necessary parties appear for an online conflict resolution session(s). We have basic knowledge on how Brāv helps victims cope with trauma, but we seek much more support to determine long term effects.

We just found out that Brāv was accepted into the December Challenge – if we get at least 40 different donors to give a total of $5000.00, we earn a permanent spot on the site! The website:, please donate to ensure peace wins, and forward to all of your contacts – personal and professional .

Conflict resolution resonates well with those who have experienced conflicts and resulting trauma.


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Brāv Participates in the Prestigious Annual Event: Cyberweek 2014

Brav-LogoEach November, the global dispute resolution community comes together for the exciting event: Cyberweek. This is an annual virtual conference dedicated to the innovations and developments in online dispute resolution. It is hosted by, created and supported by The Werner Institute for Negotiation and Dispute Resolution at Creighton University School of Law. This year, Brāv was invited to join panelists from around the world in a week of compelling presentations.

From November 4th-7th, the event produced 17 live webinars, 8 discussion forums, and other activities with subjects ranging from trends in conflicts, responses to digital bullying, cyber safety, ethics in technology, and much more. Activities were available in English, Spanish, and Portuguese.

On November 5th, Brāv’s CEO, Remi Alli, held a webinar titled ‘How Workplace Conflicts, Domestic Violence, and Bullying are all Connected, and Why We are Finally Ready for ODR.’ Moderated by Bryan Hanson, Assistant Director at The Werner Institute, Ms. Alli spoke of these issues and how, through our work, Brāv can be at the forefront of innovative solutions in dispute resolution encompassing multiple challenges around the globe.

The information and inspiration generated from Cyberweek 2014 are an invaluable resource in addressing the needs of conflict management across all borders and ages. We are very thankful to have been a part of this crucial event, and look forward to more exciting activities in the near future.

For more information, please contact us at Our webinar and many of the events from the week can be accessed in archival format at this address:

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If the U.S. Used a Form of the Tribal System…what would it be like?

If we ran ourselves more like a tribe in some ways:

  1. If you commit certain offences, you are banished from the tribe.
  2. You would have a sense of belonging.
  3. Others would look to you for direction, and therefore you would feel a sense of purpose.
  4. You get to determine the moral codes of your society.
  5. You police yourself and driving out negative behavior.
  6. When others in your group give you a bad name, you would be responsible to punish them and make them stop, send peer pressure their way to make them stop, or to distance yourself from them and publicly condemn their actions.
  7. If you don’t want to take the rap of others in your group, then do what you can to keep them on the straight and narrow.
  8. If you don’t police and the matter involves outside authorities, they might indict you NGMfistfor what others do.
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Google Awards Brāv Major Advertising Grant

Brāv, a promising nonprofit, is stepping onto the national stage with the help of a $120,000 per year advertising grant from Google. The team behind Brāv expect the grant to catapult the momentum of their mission to train anyone in conflict resolution and management. In turn, these trained Brāv Ones aid in the conflicts of others on the site’s face-to-face platforms.

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Video Gaming is Now a Sport – a Win for Brāv

Brav-LogoRobert Morris University, a private school in Chicago, just became the first to recognize video games as a varsity sport. That means video games are now eligible for privileges coveted by sports teams, including athletic scholarships.

Esports are increasing in popularity each year and understandably so; they are often interesting, exciting, and studies show they can cause increases in the brain regions responsible for spatial orientation, memory formation and strategic planning as well as fine motor skills.

That’s why we believe that training to become a Brāv One should incorporate esports. Imagine a Grand Theft Auto version of your life, and learning to better navigate issues you and others face daily.

Depending on how quickly you successfully reach each level, you are one step closer to getting certified, which looks good on school, volunteer and work applications.

The best part for college applicants is that training also helps to hone in on your esporting skills…and sets you apart from other qualified candidates applying for athletic scholarships.

…but the best part for everyone is…helping others in conflicts.

Just do it: sign up at


“Robert Morris University Becomes First To Recognize Video Games As Varsity Sport”

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Sh!t People Say to Sad Folks

Describing emotional difficulties to others often provides one of the following responses:

1. “You must be having a bad day.” Even if you are having a great day, they assume you are not because you’re discussing an emotionally taxing experience. Some really may not want to hear what others are going through, and others might only listen to a few cries. Be choosy about who you divulge to.

2. “Everyone has troubles.” Yes, and nobody is saying otherwise. For instance, it is hard to get others to realize the depth of pain certain conditions cause. People who say that tend to trivialize the issues and lump them in with things that are less serious. What if you have deep lacerations and go to the ER to get stitches, only to be told, “Well everyone gets splinters.” Hey, if it was just a splinter, you’d have likely already dug it out.

3. “You are choosing to feel this way, or, this is somehow your fault.” Some suffer intrusive memories about things that others consider minor, and being told it was their fault and that they chose to have such memories can further the trauma.

4. “You need Jesus/God/etc.” They assume that emotional difficulties are always caused by a separation from God or because of direct interference of Satan, and they dismiss the pervasiveness, seriousness, and depth of pain. Such a comment sounds condescending. If the problem is purely medical, no amount of prayer is going to replace medication.

5. “You just need to take responsibility.” This is related to #3 above, that you somehow neglected to do something and thus deserve what is happening.

6. “You need to lighten up, get reckless and not take life so seriously.” Encouraging reckless behavior helps nobody. If someone wasn’t suffering to begin with, they might have the luxury to not take life so hard.

7. “You just need to snap out of it.” Another cousin of #3. This advice would only work if you were causing the problem.


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