If you really think about it, it’s a bit disturbing how many of us feverishly skim through stories of men getting beheaded…or turn the channel during a debate or click out of stories on another rape after sympathizing briefly…or even question the rape survivor and what role they may have had. If something shocking happens, we rally around it, attack, then lose interest, awaiting the next novel story…
Most of us readers do not think we are disingenuous when we read outrageous stories, when our first instinct is to strongly emote, briefly, then go on with our day. When we revisit the story, emotions reappear, but often we do not go farther than that. And we have grown accustomed and possibly addicted to chasing the next sensational story. Think about the last time you read a book or saw a movie and its lasting impact versus the myriad of stories you easily forgot. In addition, with media, including internet and television, it is not surprising how the term “programs” derives from “programming.” Due to our personal obligations and learning to avoid confrontation, we often dismiss important opportunities in lieu of facing important issues.
Conflicts is such a vague term which encompasses all of what is described above. We tell ourselves to ignore them, choose our battles, or we are more mature than that, yet, we know that they are huge hindrances in our lives.
…they continue to happen to us; at work, the colleague who has taken credit for our work, silence amongst family members, even poor service at a restaurant…but instead we are ignoring, taking out our anger on loved ones and innocent others, and even getting sick (countless studies show that stress is a cause of a myriad of diseases.)