Think about some of the most terrible comments that someone has made about you. Was it said in anger? Was it stated in jest? Was the statement blurted out? Now think about hurtful comments you have made about others. How often did you really plan these comments before expressing them?
We often state comments that we later regret…but that could all be avoided if our first instinct was not to “win,” “speak first” or “speak last.” Communication is about training ourselves to be calm, patient and really think about what we want to express to another.
If you have ever watched leaders of an organization or even a country, they have words written down and have crafted their speech (with the help of a team) to ensure that they are able to communicate exactly what they intend. This is to avoid inevitable blunders.
We’re going to still make mistakes with our words, but planning ahead of time will significantly reduce the amount of apologies you’ll make later…to others…and yourself.
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